Written by Alexia Ernberg, Academic Year J-1 Exchange Student
One of the most thrilling and enlightening experiences a student can have is studying abroad. Before I arrived in San Francisco as an exchange student from Spain, I thought I had everything figured out and that my life was complete in my hometown. Spoiler: I didn’t.
While every journey is unique, there are a few things I wish I had known before taking this step. Hopefully, these insights can help future exchange students prepare for their adventure!
1. Culture Shock is Real
I knew life was going to be different in the US, but I didn’t realize how much even the small things would catch me off guard, like how friendly people are in stores or how tipping is basically mandatory in the U.S.
At first, I found myself comparing everything to Spain, but over time, I learned to embrace the differences. And here’s the twist: when you go back home, you might feel just as out of place as you did when you arrived in your host country!
2. The American Education System is Different
College life at San Francisco State University is different from what I was used to. In Spain, we usually experience lengthy lectures and a limited number of assignments, with final exams holding the majority of the importance. In this context, involvement is essential; quizzes and essays occur frequently, and team projects hold significant importance. I needed some time to adapt, but managing assignments right from the start is crucial.
3. Budgeting is a Skill You Need
San Francisco is expensive. Housing, groceries, travel, costs accumulate rapidly. I regret not planning my budget more thoughtfully prior to arriving. Preparing meals at home, utilizing student discounts, and wisely using public transportation have assisted me in controlling my expenses. Furthermore, if you're attending school in the U.S., Venmo and Cash App are essential for dividing expenses with friends.
4. Making Friends Takes Effort
I thought that making friends would happen naturally. Although individuals are welcoming, developing genuine friendships requires time, particularly when you are unfamiliar with the culture, and you're the new person that arrived suddenly. Becoming involved in student groups, participating in campus activities, and agreeing to spontaneous or planned outings have allowed me to connect with others. The top recommendation? Be receptive, engage actively, and don't hesitate to initiate discussions.
5. You’ll Miss Things You Didn’t Expect To
Of course, I knew I would miss my family and Spanish food (why is it so difficult to find jamón here?!). However, I didn't anticipate missing aspects such as walking everywhere, lengthy sobremesas following meals, or even the manner in which we greet one another with a kiss on the cheek. These little details surprised me when I least anticipated, yet they also helped me value home differently.
6. Homesickness Comes and Goes
In the beginning, everything feels like an adventure, but over time, you begin to miss home. It is completely normal. What assisted me was maintaining a routine, staying occupied, and planning calls with family and friends. Additionally, discovering a small touch of home, be it a Spanish eatery, a music playlist, or a chat with the rest of international students that are having the same feelings as you do, can help in many ways.
7. Time Zones Can Be a Struggle
Arranging calls with friends and family in your hometown can be challenging. You might need to adapt to rising early or staying up late simply to connect with others.
8. People Will Ask You About Your Accent
Some people love it, while others may ask you to say it again, and few might attempt to copy it. At first, it’s funny, but over time, you get used to explaining where you're from and how Spanish from Spain is different from Latin American Spanish.
9. Traveling is Easier Than You Think
Weekend trips are a great way to explore beyond your host city. In the U.S., distances are huge, but buses, trains, and budget airlines make trips to places like Los Angeles, Yosemite, or even Las Vegas totally possible.
10. Studying Abroad Changes You In the Best Way Possible
The most significant lesson I’ve gained? Studying abroad goes beyond academics; it is more about personal growth. You grow more independent, flexible, and open-minded. You come to understand the immensity of the world, and your perspective begins to change. It can be tough occasionally, but each difficulty brings a lesson that remains with you for life. It is a year you will forever remember, and the experiences lived will forever remain within you.
So, if you are considering studying abroad, go for it. Get ready as thoroughly as you can but also be prepared to accept the unforeseen. It isn’t always simple, but it is always rewarding. Ultimately, you will come back home with more than mere memories; you will have a new version of yourself.